Last night while we were working on getting my blog up and running, my hubby told me I needed to be on Linked In. I disagreed…. as a hairstylist, I didn’t think it was an avenue for me. Isn’t it all corporate people?

This morning I wasn’t feeling well, so I was spent a little time relaxing on the sofa reading from my tablet. I decided to search around LinkedIn a bit …. 😳 and I found a section of articles. One caught my eye… and because of recent events in my life, I decided to read it.

I opened it up and at first, I thought it wasn’t relevant but I kept reading. Then it happened… I found my self with tears running down my face, in a good way. It was a very touching article and it really struck a nerve.

My life has evolved quite a bit in the last few months. I ended my salon, turned 50 have a daughter that turned 21 and am starting a blog. I have discovered a lot about people as a whole and myself. But most of all avoiding confrontation or conflict really doesn’t make you happier…. you think it does because you avoid being uncomfortable initially. But then self-talk takes over and you start over-analyzing or making up stories about the situation.

I also see this from behind my chair. Clients come in frustrated and afraid, possibly from bad experiences or years of frustration, and they feel as though the conversation we need to have is a type of confrontation. I try to hear what they have to say, understand their personal hair story and help them come to a solution best for them.

I’ve learned it is best if we try to take a breath, pause, and come from a place of openness and understanding. It might be uncomfortable but we always end up growing from it. You can always agree to disagree and then both people feel heard and valued.

Except from the article and the link below…. enjoy!

Extending love to someone with a differing opinion does not mean you are agreeing with her or forsaking your beliefs – it shows you’re committed to moving toward a positive future.

Extending love to someone who revealed an unbecoming side of himself doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten – it shows you’re willing to see his story and scars within.

Extending love to someone who offended you does not mean you’re accepting such treatment – it means you realize you cannot thrive in a place of anger and resentment.

Extending love to someone who holds ill will towards you does not mean you don’t care – it means your life is not based on the opinions of others.  

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